Updated: Jan 22, 2022
Letting go of good for great sounds easy, like, of course, I want to uplevel my life...until you are in that situation.
This upleveling could be in any facet of your life from career, relationship, moving homes, to making investments in yourself or your business.
Imagine a trapeze artist swinging in the air, back and forth, back and forth. They are continually gaining momentum with each swing, getting closer and closer to the next bar, seeing it directly in front of them, but until they take the risk of letting go of the first bar they cannot reach the second one. They cannot progress or move on. Their only choices are to keep swinging back and forth on that same bar or dropping off to the ground.
The transition from one bar to the next takes some risk and courage. It’s possible to not make it to the next bar and fall during the leap. But, more than likely letting go will lead them to the next bar, next trick, and to complete the show. Success! Right? So can you tolerate the tiny bit of airtime between making the leap from good to great? You can check in with yourself with the questions below.
Are you worried something about your life will be harder or uncomfortable at this next level? For example, making more money means paying more taxes. Does that have you concerned? Is making more money worth paying more in taxes, even though you’ll still be richer?
It’s normal to fear change...even if it is positive. Think about getting married, for one. You are giving up your single life, the ability to do whatever you want whenever you want, for a life shared with the one you love. Yeah, you might have to think about someone else for a change, but hopefully, you’ve been doing that throughout your relationship and already feel very comfortable with one another. Don't let the fear of change keep you stuck where you don't want to be later in life.
Now it's time to journal out your fears and concerns. Take a few moments of deep breathing in a quiet space or meditate if that feels good for you, but no matter what you do, get quiet. Let your thoughts be heard. Don’t drown them out with TV, music, or books.
How is it benefiting me to stay where I am?
How am I keeping myself safe by staying here? What is my “security blanket”?
What am I so afraid of? Is this absolute truth? Could something else be true? If so, what is another possible outcome?
What will my life be like in a year if I don’t make this change? How do I feel about that?
What actions can I take to make myself feel more confident in this decision?
Will I regret it if I don’t make this change?
After you answer these questions, how do you feel? Are you excited about the change? Or still not convinced?